[quote quote=420657]I suppose I had visions of what being a grandparent would be like from how my own mother was/is with my kids. I have 3 grandchildren under 3. I see my daughter’s 2 a couple of times a week but I hardly see my son’s beautiful girl. She spends a lot of time with her maternal granny – I work full time and am tired alone but my son & his partner dont seem to consider me at all. How do I stop my self-talk that tells me I’m not as loved, needed wanted or adequate? All I can feel is that I’m not good enough and question how it’s not like I’d imagined. It makes me really sad when I see social media posts of what great days out they’ve had together, etc.[/quote]

I know this comes a bit late. Your desire to have a good relationship with your son is the beginning. The self-talk are excuses for not changing the situation. Causes find conditions and produce the effect you see. Motivate yourself to be part of their lives and they should become more open to you. Trust and friendship and love are not built in a day. Although it takes one day to begin.