Dear Seaturtle:

In regard to your latest post: I think that it’s the right choice for you to end the relationship but I don’t know when would be the right timing. You’d definitely need emotional support to go through with it because it will be difficult. I will support you here every day but you need a PLAN to go through a breakup successfully, a detailed plan that will include doing hot yoga which you like so much, every day or every other day, meeting with friends every evening for the first couple of weeks of the breakup, and more. Also, the plan will need to include what not to do.

You definitely need substance in a relationship because there is so much to you, so much intelligence, wonder, depth, curiosity, an adventurous spirit.. way more than superficial style/ appearances can satisfy.

anita