Did I push him to feel he needed to take control and not love him enough so he now is passive aggressive and gaslights?

He has done sweet things for me and maybe I haven’t done enough to show him I love and appreciate him so he is now resentful and putting less effort into us, which is him not putting energy into validating and hearing out my feelings, and him not believing in me?

I am just confused, I feel like he was not always this way and I fear I turned him into my father by not being good enough for him, being selfish and just not contributing enough to us.