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December 8, 2023 at 11:47 am #425941
anita
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Dear Greenshade/ M:

You are very welcome and thank you for welcoming me back to the forums!

You detailed the reasons why, in your country, you can’t live with a man who you are not married to (and you need to live with  man so to be able to “(see) their behavior up close before committing“), that you are afraid that if you have men over to your apartment, you might lose your housing, and your social life is limited in other ways.

“Work is the one area that feels very fulfilling, because I feel what I do here in my country makes exponentially the amount of difference it would if I did it in a western context. It is what is keeping me here. My setting, and my being fully grounded in this setting, helps my work be unique and be competitive even at a global level. It also makes me feel like I am helping to build a society more aligned with one I would want to live in. I fear losing this edge and fulfilment/ excitement if I do move abroad again”-
– It is admirable that you highly value helping your people and your country and that you do the work that you do to make a real difference! And I see why you don’t want to move abroad again.
“With my family, my father has a caregiver now who has taken over much of his care, and my mum has family she could move in with, so my family would be cared for if I do move abroad. I guess for me the big question in building a healthy happy life now for myself is that I don’t see how to be able to follow both my work and my home life goals at the same time“-
– question, if I may: since it is disadvantageous for you to move abroad, and since your parents don’t need you as a caretaker, can you keep your job if you move to a relatively progressive city in India where landlords would not punish a female tenant for having a male visitor in her home, a place where dating in public is not frowned upon?
anita