Dear Seaturtle:

Your post today made my day: from you feeling much better all the way to this (in regard to N): “I feel like I should be more sad or upset, but I am not“. Referring to the title of your now 17-page thread, your gut is getting stronger and your fear is getting weaker. And I am thrilled to witness this happening!

“As an empath in a relationship with N, I must have taken on his stress for a long time… I wonder how much of my current thoughts are due to a lack of things to worry about… I wonder what the book would write about once an empath escapes someone who put a lot onto them.. thoughts?”-

– In think that once you see N for who he is (for who he has become during his 1st & 2nd decades of his life, before he ever met you), you can see that you are so much better off without him in your life. An empath is an easy prey for a gaslighter or any other kind of abuser. This is why children are so easily damaged by abusive parents: young children are empaths of the most sensitive kind.

I am not focused enough to reply further today, and I will reply (to your recent post and to anything you may add to it) tomorrow morning. I will end this post with saying: I am proud of you, Seaturtle!

anita