Dear Seaturtle:

“I have thought a lot about hatch in this breakup and definitely do not want to have empathy for her mountain lion (let’s say shark)“- being that you are a sea turtle, it is definitely more appropriate to take my imagery of the mountain lion & deer) underwater.

A bit of  preparatory research, from ocean faun. com: “Sharks typically look at anything smaller than themselves as a potential food source. So, if sea turtles are smaller, sharks will eat them… In particular, hatchling and juvenile sea turtles are more vulnerable to shark predation than adult ones due to their smaller size and lack of experience in avoiding predators. However, smaller sharks don’t take sea turtles as prey since they can’t overpower the larger sea turtles. Great white, tiger, hammerhead, and bull sharks are some of the more common shark species that feed on sea turtles… Sharks can break the shell of sea turtles in certain cases. Sharks have incredibly strong jaws and sharp teeth, which allow them to crush and tear through most things that it encounters, including the protective shells of sea turtles. While turtle shells are generally tough enough to protect them from most predators, there are some instances when a particularly powerful shark can break the shell, potentially leading to the death of the turtle. This typically occurs when the shark bites with enough force and pressure at a weak point on the shell, such as near its neck or tail. The shark can then use its powerful jaws to break through the hard outer layer of a turtle’s carapace and get inside, where it can feed on the tender flesh beneath. It’s also possible that if a shark has a large enough body size relative to the turtle, it could simply crush it using brute force alone… The natural behavior of sea turtles does not involve attacking anything or defending themselves against potential threats with force or aggression. Rather, sea turtles prefer to flee from danger by swimming away at full speed using their strong flippers and long tails. While this technique is usually successful in avoiding predators such as sharks, there are some instances where a shark may be too fast for a turtle to outswim it”.

Okay, so the imagery change: You are a sea turtle and N is a shark. Your best defense is to swim away from him as fast as you can (No Contact). If the sea turtle has empathy for the shark, that very empathy will slow it down or make it stop its fleeing altogether, ending with the sea turtle being prey.

Back to your yesterday post: “It is hurtful when someone defends a shark in your life, because it invalidates you and I don’t want to do this to myself. So I am open to evaluating my shark now. This creature has always been an interesting but very frightening creature for me… They eat Seaturtles, part of my evidence into believing I am a reincarnated sea turtle. I do not believe this so strongly, it is more of a little feeling that could be true, but who knows what really is true when these matters come to the surface. Anyways, is there anything specifically you think I should evaluate about N?“-

– No, just keep No Contact with the shark. Think of some people as predators because.. many people are, unfortunately, and in so many ways. When dealing with a Predator, your first priority should be- must be (if you are to survive) to not be Prey.

“Do you think he knows he was manipulating?“- yes, he knows. But he doesn’t know-know, meaning he doesn’t think deeply about it, just as he doesn’t think deeply about anything that he doesn’t find it necessary to think about. Unlike you, he is not curious to grow, gain wisdom, and understand life and the meaning of it.

“When I would sense this lack of love or respect, I would bring it up to him and he would act as though I offended him. ‘How could you not feel loved after..’ listing things like coming to see my family, being there when I cry etc. I would then get confused and think I was just ungrateful. I would mention the respect, and he would say ‘you think I would stay with someone I didn’t respect?’“-

– he doesn’t give any thought to your questions and concerns, instead he throws them back at you. He is about deflecting, accusing, denying, guilt-tripping,  gaslighting.. He is about Winning, no matter the cost. He is not about growing, gaining wisdom, and understanding life and the meaning of it.

“This makes me relieved that this lack of feeling sad/upset is revealing of some positive change inside me. I hope to get better at seeing the positive changes as a result of the work I have done and am doing.“-I am glad. Please do keep your crown chakra open and your light bright, and you will enjoy a rare clarity about “the difference between gut and fear in relationships“!

anita