Dear Joohi:

I read your original post and will reply further later, maybe as late as tomorrow (Saturday) morning. But for now: I think that your proposed solution at the end of your post is the best: for you to live separately and independently from your parents and from your boyfriend.

I understand how expensive it’d be but maybe there are less expensive options such as being a live-in caretaker, exchanging caretaking of an older person for rent, an older person who needs help only at certain times, so that you have the time to continue your job and studies…?

anita