Dear Justaguy01:

I am not clear: it worries you that she hasn’t been on any of the messaging platforms where the two of you used to communicate because you think that she stays away from people and activities in general, indicating that she’s depressed, or do you worry that she is staying away specifically from you?

If I was you, I wouldn’t contact her because, seems to me, that she really needs space from everyone. She knows that she can contact you if she wants to, but she doesn’t. Maybe she fits the Avoidant Attachment Style (avoiding emotional closeness in times of heightened anxiety) and you fit the Anxious Attachment Style (seeking emotional closeness in times of heightened anxiety)…?

If this is the case there is online information and advice in regard to making it work for two individuals of these different styles.

anita