Dear Seaturtle:

I’ll reply further later, in hours from now, maybe as late as tomorrow, but for now, regarding him encouraging you to do things that make you stronger: when he did not feel threatened, he did. When he felt threatened, it’s then that he wanted you weak. It’s not like he planned this or was even aware of it. It is more instinctual than a thinking thing.

What threatens him? That you will see through him, that you will see what he sees: a man beautiful or valuable on the outside, but not on the inside (as he sees himself).

anita