Dear Seaturtle:

“My father though, was more the situation where I would expose weakness to satisfy an aggressor. With N I… actually held my ground very often if… he got verbally aggressive, like the C-word incident… I was holding my ground. Contrary to my dad who I would belly up or else he wouldn’t stop“- When I mentioned the belly-up response to aggression, or the potential of aggression, I wasn’t thinking about you doing that, but generally. I am not surprised you did this with F, but not with N. Like you said, N was an upgrade over F.

“We wondered if our good ‘thirst quenching’ conversation, was only to be had between women, I doubt this, but I don’t have much evidence to say that is false“- I think that it’s more likely to happen between women because of traditional gender roles and traits taught to and enforced in boys vs girls.

“As in they cannot experience two emotions at once? Or they cannot link scenarios and emotions“- for one, being on a lot of weed every day means that he is not likely to be mindful/ aware of his emotions, plus I don’t think that he thinks and overthinks trying to figure out things )like you and I do), weed or not.

“What do you do instead to entertain yourself, with REAL LIFE? I suppose come to this forum!“- yes, real-life stories!

“Do you ever go see plays? I enjoy plays and tv shows…“- I am sure some plays are high quality and some movies as well. Problem is I have ADD, ever since I was a child, so it is very hard for me to follow conversations and plot development by hearing/ listening. Here on the forums, I can follow details because it’s on the computer screen and I have all the time I need to re-arrange the information, re-read, edit my writings, etc.

“I wonder what my next topic should be… I feel afraid to start a forum where I don’t feel as understood as I do here…“- I am glad you feel understood here! And I have no need or preference whatsoever that you start a new thread, it is totally up to you!

Good evening and night, Seaturtle. I want to say: I think very highly of you and it’s my pleasure to communicate with you!

anita