Dear Anita, thank you so much for your comments really needed them🙏🏼

Actually he didnt want to move to the country where i was working. But you got a right point, he wanted a connection there. Actually we were both in different gulf arabic countries and these countries were very near to each other. His country is very strict and he couldnt date freely in his country, so for him it was easy to fly to me whenever he wanted and going on dates, restaurants, hotels freely in my working country cuz although it was also gulf country but he wasnt a citizen there and no one knew him. So he  was feeling more relaxed to do what he wanted there. So yes, he wanted a connection there and maybe really he get disappointed because he wouldnt come to me easily whenever he wanted..

“It’s not your fault, it’s not about your mistakes. It’s about him not feeling capable and confident in his abilities to make independent, adult life possible for himself,” – Wow, he told me the same when he was breaking up with me, he told “its not you, its me. I dont deserve you because i cant provide this relationship what it needs” But i didnt believe him i thought its only BS reason to leave me.. but after your comment I really understood it thank you so much

I just never experienced this kind of love bombing and devaluation before.. And i never had a serious relationship like this where we could talk about marriage and kids and future.. he promised me so many things and i trusted him. He was acting like he is very rich, very responsible, very mature, serious guy. In the first month of relationship he was telling me “i want to take care of you, i want to spoil you, i promise i will make ur life a paradise” , and in the last month of relationship he told me “dont depend on me”  (: 😂

You are right, he cannot even depend on himself and all these showing off was a lie. He wants to be someone but yet he couldnt have any status in life, so maybe really he couldnt handle me and my love.

Because as i know, a really mature person will be with you in your ups and downs, when you are skinny or when u got fat, with job or without a job.. I was blaming myself for thinking maybe i wasnt good enough for him, but no, he wasnt and isnt perfect and i never even thought ever about his weight, muscles or his job or how much money he has. His love was so conditional to me.. I just still cant believe how a person can change suddenly after building emotional connection with me.. so sad really