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Dear IMBACK

“I had a thought today…  I started questioning If I even loved her“- what I boldfaced is the recurring, intrusive, obsessive thought.

Wikipedia/ relationship obsessive compulsive behavior (ROCD):  “People may continuously doubt whether they love their partner… haunted by continuous doubts regarding the relationship…

“ROCD is a form of OCD. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) are considered the Gold Standard psychological treatments for OCD. According to CBT models, we all have unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images and urges. Individuals with OCD interpret these intrusive experiences as meaning something bad about their character (crazy or bad) or about the future (a catastrophe is going to occur)… Such interpretations increase attention to unwanted intrusive experiences, making them more distressing and increasing their frequency…”.

Do you relate to this quote, and if so, do you feel that if you lost the loving feeling for her, it would make you “crazy or bad” (from the quote above), or that some catastrophe will happen?

“So I had a thought today, that maybe it has something to do with the fact that I feel like I have to love her and be over the moon with her every single minute of the day”-

– and if you don’t love her over the moon, every single minute of the day, what’s the worst that can happen?

“Or could it be that I’m afraid of the future... Now we are getting close to her 18 years birthday and I’m about to meet her family in 2 weeks”- what are you afraid of, IMBACK?

anita