Dear Aryan:

“My anxiety and negative thinking made me lose her within a month. I have been devastated by the fact I couldn’t even communicate properly to her how I was feeling. It could’ve been something great but I ruined everything with my own hands“- you are taking 100% responsibility for the ending of the month-old relationship. I am guessing that she carries some responsibility too. I wonder if your feeling/ belief that you ruined everything with her extends to how you generally feel and believe about your life (that you ruin everything)?

“My grades are at a pretty low state and I am trying to work on those. My social life looks abysmal… I am just stuck here with no motivation even to get out of the bed. I have been trying very hard but everything seems so monotone and pointless. The future seems very overwhelming… It feels like rock-bottom and so damn lonely“- humans, such as you and I, are social beings by nature. To be motivated to get out of bed, to be able to focus and do well in school, to feel somewhere above rock bottom, we have to feel connected to other people.

– From cdc. gov/ emotional well-being: “Social isolation and loneliness have become widespread problems in the United States, posing a serious threat to our mental and physical health… Social isolation is the lack of relationships with others and little to no social support or contact. It is associated with risk even if people don’t feel lonely. Loneliness is feeling alone or disconnected from others. It is feeling like you do not have meaningful or close relationships or a sense of belonging. It reflects the difference between a person’s actual and desired level of connection. This means that even a person with a lot of friends can feel lonely”.

From the guardian. com/ WHO declares loneliness a ‘global public health concern’: “The World Health Organization has launched an international commission on loneliness, which can be as bad for people’s health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day…'[Loneliness] transcends borders and is becoming a global public health concern affecting every facet of health, wellbeing and development,’ said Mpemba. “Social isolation knows no age or boundaries.’…
<p class=”dcr-4cudl2″>”Between 5% and 15% of adolescents are lonely, according to figures that are likely to be underestimates… Young people experiencing loneliness at school are more likely to drop out of university…”-</p>
What do you think of, or feel about the above quotes?

anita