If in his 30s he is still looking upto his parents for his life’s decision and putting you through this.. idk . Indian families are just toxic in the name of culture and traditions.There is no quickfix to your pain, I’ll not give you false hopes.. world is like that.. it’s not fair.sooner you accept it better it will be for you.If he wants to marry you and family is not budjing you can marry without their approval.. such people do not deserve to be part of their children’s life.And if he is not showing any effort.. don’t waste another 12 years. Good luck didi.