Dear Nia:

Welcome back! We communicated at length in your previous thread from Feb 24- Oct 1, 2020. I just read through our communication back then. If I have it right, you are married now for just over 10 years and have a 3-year-old child.

Today, you shared, best I understand, that Dona, your best friend from childhood, whose parents helped you and treated you well, recently ostracized you from the group of friends on social media because you didn’t visit her or her parents, in-person, for years (since Covid-19) even though you live in the same town.

“I feel not good of that.. because I think I was wrong because didn’t visit them… I am surprised she said bad thing on group about me… What should I do Anita..? Is that relationship makes conditions should be have a routine meet? Is that Dona have a toxic issues also?“- I am sorry that you were ostracized from the group of friends.

It is possible that Dona has toxic issues. Lots of people do. But I understand why she’d be troubled by the fact that you didn’t visit her, and particularly her parents (who were good to you) even though you live in the same town.

I wonder what bad things she said about you..?

“And is that problem on me? I think I have some isolation issues also and I’m introvert“-I wonder if you didn’t visit Dona or her parents because of some form of social anxiety (being nervous to be with people in-person), and on top of it, anxiety born during Covid-19, when being around people in-person was considered physically dangerous?

“And what should I do with her parents? I still feel guilty  because their kindness is really valuable for me. I don’t know either how to repay them..“- did her parents or Dona accuse you of not being grateful to them? What kind of communication have you had with her parents in the last few years and recently?

anita