Dear Cosmo:

I had to look up ENM: “Consensual non-monogamy, also known as ethical non-monogamy, is an umbrella term for relationships in which all partners give explicit consent to engage in romantic, intimate, and/or sexual relationships”.

“I actually have thought about ENM a while ago. But… I decided to deny the thoughts of non-monogamous relationship at all. Not to mention its very taboo in my country’s moral compass. Its like not me and how I’ve been living my life. Also, if I am ENM, I wouldn’t think I be this devastated“-

– I need to understand better. Please answer the following if you feel comfortable doing so:

(1) What motivated you to cheat?

(2) What thoughts go through your mind when you feel shame and guilt in regard to your cheating within the relationship?

(3) What was the state of your parents’ marriage when you were growing up, and how was your childhood experience like?

anita