Dear Sunny:

“We both have shared that after fighting, sometimes it’s hard to just bounce back to normalcy“- this is why the best policy is to not fight, but to resolve conflicts through a negotiation. Of course, when there’s anger, it’s okay to responsibly express it, but not to escalate it.

“He stated that I prioritized the wrong emotions and that I should have been there for him on his first day of work… I was trying to release tension between us which is why I felt like I wasn’t prioritizing the wrong emotions here. I was only trying to make things better between us. Is that so much of a bad thing?“- I suppose timing is an important issue here: if you confronted him with what you confronted him after his first day of work, that would’ve been better timing, wouldn’t it?

“Is there any advice you can give? I am struggling here.“- reconsider the situation, see if his complaints are more valid than you thought so far. If they are, then sincerely apologize, letting him know specifically what you are apologizing for.

You are welcome to describe what happened before his first day at work, if you would like more specific input from me.

anita