Hey Anita, I think you are right. My parents say that in this case since it’s something that should be out of my control then just take it as it comes. Friends come and go and you can’t plan to be friends with somebody. It happens naturally, so maybe I should lean on the idea that if we become friends that’s great, and if we don’t that’s also great! We get friends for a reason, and some people you try to be friends with but it doesn’t work out. That’s properly why you shouldn’t be friends then. It just seems like it is as soon as I give people expectations about something and Im actually not sure that I can live up to it. In this case I told my then girlfriend that if we broke up then we could be friends and we also talked about it after we broke up. So now she expects me to become her friend in the future. So now I just feel like there is pressure on me to be her friend instead of actually wanting to be her friend. I have told her that I won’t promise her anything, but I know that she expects us to be friends in the future.