Hi Nate

As Anita said, it sounds like you have some unrealistic expectations for dating.

At 21 even while dating, most people don’t even know what love is yet. You hear about it in media, but even that is contrived.

It’s highly unlikely that you will find love even in a relationship as a 21 year old. People are still figuring themselves out and trying to build a life. Yourself included.

Dating is really just like having a friend that you have sex with. Don’t pin some unrealistic ideas on it. It’s even okay just to want to have the experience of having sex. It’s a normal part of growing up. The easiest place to meet someone who wants to do that is at a party.

If you take things as they are. Allow people freedom. Develop friendships and get to know people without expectations of dating them. In time, it’ll happen.

Some people you are attracted to and some you aren’t. It is the same for women. There is nothing more interesting than a guy who actually cares about you as a person and a human being.

Meet lots of new people, have fun, have lots of new experiences and make lots of friends! Things will fall into place.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏