Hi Alex

It’s pretty common for couples to discuss their previous sex lives. I’m sorry to hear that you have been arguing. Are your arguments related to your topic today? Or other things too?

It sounds to me like she might be hinting that her regularly engaging in sex years are behind her. She is older than you, perhaps she is going through menopause which actively changes sexual drive for women? I hear it can change a lot of things during sex too.

For women who say have had a hysterectomy sex can be very difficult too. There are lots of things that women have to deal with while for men, not as much changes.

Perhaps you fear that her comments reflect on your performance? But perhaps she is trying to communicate her personal difficulties?

It might be worth looking online for information about menopause and things that can help with that for sex. Not because of you, but to help her.

Realistically though, she may not want to have sex as frequently as you do. How do you feel about that?

Wishing you all the best? ❤️🙏