Hi Anita,

It has been a while, I hope you are doing well.

I have been trying to work on myself, go to therapy and not to overthink. I am in a better place but there still are times where I get very anxious and start overthinking. I also took a few steps back from being the bigger person when it comes to my mother and am practicing it. My overthinking gets too bad sometimes and prevents me from being in the moment. I have observed that this majorly triggers when my boyfriend just stays very silent. Recently he came to visit me and I was in a very better place but when we went on a drive and he was sooo silent over the duration of the drive, it pissed me off and triggered my anxiety and overthinking. I don’t know what to do in such situations.

I am planning to take a break from my relationship, take some space and work on myself, try to get in touch with myself.

You asked about my previous relationships – I was in one serious relationship followed by 2 experiences which were not really relationships but we dated. When it comes to my RSH – I was always attracted to guys who were calm, respected women, outgoing, could make good conversations and make people around them feel comfortable and also who are spiritual. My history was with similar type of men. No, I did not experience this anxiety or overthinking before – not to this level. My relationships mostly ended because I felt I was the one always giving and initiating things and ultimately feeling that the other person probably did not care enough.