Dear Mr A

Oh dear oh dear what a pickle. As a woman who tried for many years to conceive again after having two healthy boys. I remember how each month that I did not get pregnant I felt a failure and less of a woman.   If your mindset is mainly to make love to your wife, because you want a child, she is probably going to feel  like an unloved brood mare instead of a beloved wife.

I suggest you take the pressure off your wife and stop trying to conceive and spend the next year taking time to nurture your wife’s self esteem after the battering you have given it for the last 3 years.  Get playful, make time for each other, dance, find out what’s her joy. You may just have to accept that you will remain childless.

Roberta