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  • #458450
    Roberta
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    Dear Starlight

    I have just read what you have written on other threads & I see more clearly what you have been thru.
    My mother never acknowledged or apologized. The forgiveness is to help me heal & make me stronger. Only the other day when I was clearing out old stuff of my mothers I came across a letter that was for me, that my eldest son wrote decades ago. I do not know whether she was trying to protect me or just her being dominant, I wrote to my son and said sorry that his questions had gone unanswered & that any hurt extending from that was inadvertent. I refrained from going on too much about my mother as I wanted not to hold resentment in my heart.
    I hope you find a path that brings peace & understanding
    Roberta
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    #458437
    Roberta
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    If we feel that we only have one lifetime then Karma can look like it does not exist/work when we see that other peoples actions go unresolved.
    We are planting the seeds for future karmas to ripen all the time & some seeds from our pasts when the right conditions arrive will fruit in this lifetime. As life happens it is how we respond to it that is important, do we meet life’s ups & downs with love, compassion wisdom etc or with greed hatred & ignorance?

    #458435
    Roberta
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    Hi Confused

    I use this lovely guided meditation to help me relax & reset, it is 2hours long, but maybe you & your girlfriend could listen to it together when you meet up, it could be a pleasant way to spend time together unpressuerized. it is on youtube and it is titled Yoga nidra sleep meditation for sleep & insomnia by Ally Boothroyd
    Best of luck to both of you
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    #458434
    Roberta
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    Hello Starlight
    I am a bit confused “When i was younger, i could have gone to art school to do a foundation course, and then perhaps fine art. But about the time i was thinking of this, my mother decided she was going to go to the art school. She told me i should help support her by doing housework. I ended up leaving and going to work.”

    When your mum asked you to do housework, was that taking on some of the chores around the family home or did she mean you going out & earning money to support her? Also you said you were thinking about the art course, did you talk to your mum about your dreams, before she went ahead & actioned hers?

    I did art as a nightschool subject ( I was rubbish, but still got pleasure) & I also did a distance learning course in arts & antiques ( I think I have a good eye) all whilst raising a family & working.
    Is art for you an expression of your thoughts & feelings? and or a way of getting money, recognition & prestige? Does the action of creating something bring you joy?
    Who owns your art & joy? you, your mother, art critiques?
    Was/ is your mother happy & fulfilled by going to study art?
    What is art to you? I have a friend who is in their seventies & has only just started to express & explore herself thru art, so it is never to late to reclaim yourself.
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    #458375
    Roberta
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    Hi
    Feel like I have been drifting lately & so made the effort to listen to a dharma talk on right livelihood. the link is below

    #458352
    Roberta
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    Hi Thomas

    For a long time I did not have the time for formal practice & missed/resented that aspect until a friend & fellow practioner/carer said that looking after our parents is the practice put into real time reality.
    Now I am not so busy, but have got out of the habit of extended daily practice, so I am always grateful to make time to sit with others when they request or take up an offer of a session.

    Been married twice & had more relationships than I can count, so romantic relationships are definitely not my area of strength. The more I understand myself, I realize I was a sense junkie ( giving & receiving sensual pleasure) with limited capacity to put up with bad habits as I judged them whilst ignoring my own faults! Since taking a vow of celibacy I create a lot less havoc in mine & others lives.
    I am grateful to this forum as a place where conversations that have a depth & sense of enquiry happen.
    I hope your urge to drink is not overwhelming & you are being kind to yourself.
    Roberta

    #458262
    Roberta
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    Hi Thomas
    It is the start of our holiday season on our little island. I had friends stay with me for 5 days, 2 came for a day trip & then a long & slightly lost cousin turned up with his family for a reunion so our grandchildren could meet for the first time. Plus extra shifts with both my jobs.
    I just get confused when old threads are reactivated., But funnily enough I got a phone call on Thursday by someone who had been looking for my meditation sessions & found my number on a very old website about our island, so we met up today & did a wonderful loving kindness meditation.
    Off shortly for a sunset walk with a dear friend who visits the island every couple of month or so.
    Hope deep peace returns to you & your wife’s relationship

    #458259
    Roberta
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    Hi Anita
    You are the homecoming queen. live, love & laugh your way to freedom
    Roberta

    #458258
    Roberta
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    Hi
    I am still here. Working & a stream of visitors for the last 8 days meant little or no time to be present electronically.
    best wishes
    Roberta

    #458027
    Roberta
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    Hi
    Anita

    Sorry that you Bogargt has wet your bed. I hope it was just a passing phase.
    Sorry i have been out of loop, I dont know where the time goes.
    My satellite dish fell onto the rook last night & the wind kept bouncing on the tiles above my bedroom in sounded like a giant doing a tap dance on the roof. This was the room I was going to put my friends in when they visit at the end of the week, so I had to spend most of today spring cleaning another room for them to use, gosh I have accumulated so much stuff, where is Maria Condo when you need her.
    Anyway off to bed, hope you have a dry night
    Roberta

    #457889
    Roberta
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    Hi Anita

    What’s your plans for the weekend? Have you found a replacement for the winery & tap room? I rarely go to a pub, sometimes out for a bar meal with family or friends, but I have been to 2 boardgames nights at pub next to a beach this month with my son.
    What kind of music do you like to dance to? I enjoy dancing & singing loudly & badly who cares if there is no-one around.
    Once again I hear my bed calling, my age must be catching up with me
    Roberta

    #457812
    Roberta
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    Hi Anita
    I think it is lunch time for you now, where here the sun is on its way down turning my neighbors eucalyptus tree a lovely bronze color & the sky is a patchwork of blue & what looks like rain clouds. I am off to read in bed shortly after a day on my hands & knees cutting grass & watching the ants go by.
    Hope you & Bogart are having a good day.
    Roberta

    #457804
    Roberta
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    Hi Anita

    I am not on facebook aka Faceache or twitter. I know that I probably miss out on lots of good stuff by eschewing them, but at least I don’t get myself wound up or cause any harm, my mind can be so judgmental at times & I might mindlessly spew out garbage & make mine or someonelse’s situation worse. I live in a smallish community, so I try to walk my talk & not hide from or whitewash or exaggerate my past, other than saying that I have had 637 exes!
    I too enjoy the slower pace of this forum, but have to pop off & feed the chickens before facilitating a walking meditation session.
    Best wishes
    Roberta

    #457397
    Roberta
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    Dear Gabrielle
    I am sorry that you are struggling because of your decision to break up with your bf. can I ask how long were you together for?
    Did he ever do anything that made you feel/believe that he would leave you for someone else or stop caring about you?
    In what ways do you feel that the pair of you were not communicating well?
    Roberta

    #457291
    Roberta
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    Hi Em
    I note that you have not mentioned what happens after these fights, nor do you speak about how you feel other than the word love, do you feel supported & nurtured with a sense of freedom alongside side security in this relationship? Do you enjoy emotional drama in your life?
    How is the rest of your life outside of this relationship?
    Do you live alone? How safe do you feel?
    I know that I am asking you a lot of questions & I hope that you will answer both Anita’s & I’s posts, we are here for you
    Roberta

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