Dear Teni,

your partner gets easily mad at you, even for things like your biorhythm and a physiological need to go to sleep earlier than them:

I don’t feel comfortable sleeping earlier than them, as they get annoyed/mad/sad when I sleep earlier than them. I get anxious when I sleep without them (we usually sleep together most days) because they might call me while I am asleep, and they usually get mad/sad/annoyed when I don’t reply if I oversleep or during sleep in like midnight

If you don’t pick up the phone in the middle off the night – when one is supposed to sleep – they get mad (or sad). This tells me that they have a hard time regulating themselves and see you as their mother/caretaker, who should be available to them at all times to soothe them and meet their needs.

Your partner seems stuck in their child self, where they only think about themselves and their own needs, and have no respect for your needs, even your basic physiological needs.

And then they threaten with suicide if you dare to leave. Which is very abusive, as Helcat said. It’s the worst kind of emotional blackmail.

So my advice is to leave. Don’t allow yourself to be blackmailed. Your partner would need to do some serious healing work before they can be in a healthy relationship.