Dear Carol:

You are very welcome and thank you for expressing your appreciation!

“I admit that I am disappointed, but I am now free to redirect all my energy and focus to people who actually prioritize me and who won’t downgrade our friendship when they meet someone ? I feel better seeing it that way.“-  that you are disappointed, it’s understandable. Focusing on the positive (having the freedom to redirect your energy to people who prioritize you, etc.) is a healthy and courageous attitude.

It seems like your friend is indeed no longer a best friend or a close friend, and that she indeed shifted her priorities away from you: “to solidify his relationship with him. She was more caring towards his friends than me“, like you said.

“I feel like she has put less efforts in this friendship, as a result, I (rightfully) did the same, and now things are different. Would the information I added invalidate how I am feeling ? Sometimes, I am still doubting and thinking that I am the one who’s too high maintenance? Sorry, there is a lot of self-doubt in this process, especially on the rare occasions where she texts me.“- it seems like you feel somewhat responsible for your friend shifting priorities away from you, as if you are guilty for the weakening of the friendship. The self-doubt is something like this: did she move away from me because of her new relationship or because I was too much (high maintenance), or because I moved away from her first/ too soon?

Is this the question on your mind? If not, can you edit what I typed above, so to make it exact?

Also, in what ways do you think that you were high maintenance with her?

(I understand that you are busy, so please take your time to answer my questions (if you choose to answer them, of course).

anita