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July 10, 2024 at 7:56 am #434871
anita
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* It is possible that this post will come out messy because I am copied and pasted from an online source. If it does, I will resubmit the following in a clear form.

Dear anonymous:

“... I console myself  that everything is the outcome of overthinking… I need to take all my decisions. But this is where I get confused. It seems every decision I take will result negatively and I try to think of all consequences from the decisions I try to make and I get lost. Even a simple decision seems an uphill task for me hence this results in serious procrastination“- when one is lost in overthinking, then indeed even a simple decision is an uphill task and procrastination is the result.

From very well mind/ how to know when you are overthinking: “Overthinking can be a hard habit to break…  the longer you think about something, the less time and energy you have to take productive action. Plus, thinking about all the things you could have done differently, second-guessing your decisions, and continuously imagining worst-case scenarios can be exhausting… Overthinking involves thinking about a certain topic or situation excessively and analyzing it for long periods of time. When you overthink, you have a hard time getting your mind to focus on anything else… Research suggests that overthinking is associated with feelings of depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)…

“How to Stop Overthinking: Getting out of your head can be a challenge. Research shows thinking less about a problem might actually be the key to developing better solutions. Here are a few ways to stop overthinking: Distract Yourself... with another task—like working in the garden… A brief distraction can give you a break. And it may get your mind focused on something more productive. And, your brain might even develop a solution for you when you stop thinking about the problem.
“Challenge Negative Thoughts Remind yourself that your thoughts are not facts. Every thought you have will not be truthful, accurate, or even realistic. Learning how to reframe them in a more positive way can help relieve the tendency to overthink. Example Negative thought: I am always saying the wrong things… I’m sure people think I am an idiot. Challenge: Is it true that I always say the wrong things, 100% of the time? Has anyone told me that I sound like an idiot? Reframed thought: There are times I could articulate my thoughts more clearly… When you find yourself overthinking, challenge these thoughts. Ask yourself if they are realistic. Consider alternative scenarios…
“Work on Your Interpersonal Skills Studies have found that improving your interpersonal skills can help stop you from overthinking since these skills have a large effect on this particular habit…. Meditate… The goal is not to clear your mind, but rather to focus it on something positive (or neutral) and practice redirecting your focus whenever your thoughts wander….
“Practice Self-Acceptance Overthinking often stems from dwelling on past mistakes or worrying about things that you cannot change. Instead of berating yourself for things you might regret, try working toward being more accepting and compassionate of yourself…”

Back to your post: “Whoever I am communicating with at the moment, I try using compassion and empathy and ensure I do not use words that hurts them. In fact in the past, friends who used to come to me for sharing their issues. I listened to them and provided help to the best of my abilities.  I was deeply hurt when I was having issues and looked for them. They were not there“-

– in line with the last point in  article I quoted from, try using compassion and empathy toward yourself and ensure that you do not use words that hurt you. Listen to yourself and provide help to yourself. Be there  for you.

“I have been smoking heavily since the past 4.5 years. From this morning, I have made goal to reduce it slowly and ultimately quit“- congratulations for making this goal and I wish you success!

anita