Hi Harry

Well it’s good to hear that you tried to make her feel more comfortable by changing jobs. But it still doesn’t fix the realistic problem for her which is that in a long distance relationship you have proven that you cannot be trusted.

That being said, it sounds like she is trying to accommodate your behaviour by suggesting that it is okay to see other people. She is making it clear that she has trust issues with you because of this.

It does make the whole relationship more insecure in that you would both be potentially seeing other people making it easier for you both to walk away at any time.

If you want this to change, you would have to prove that you are trustworthy by choosing not to see anyone despite being allowed to.

It is up to you what you want to do next and what path you want to take.

She may sleep with some to even the playing field as it were. Some people do that, make things even and call it fair.

Working on not being in your own head sounds like a good idea. Sometimes you have to take things on the chin when you make a mistake. What she is suggesting is fair but if you prove yourself worthy things may change in the future.

Just stay calm and if you don’t want to give up on the relationship, see the situation for what it is. She is offering you a chance. It might not seem that way, but she is.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏