Hi Famo

Sure, you don’t want to be compared to his other relationships. But in point 2) you compared your relationship to his relationship with others, suggesting that he was treating you the same way as other people. Which as you say, isn’t true because he is still making an effort to meet with you and he isn’t necessarily doing that for others.

Everyone has different standards. Meeting for a date once a week is quite satisfactory for many people. Every 10 days is a bit longer. But you could ask for it to be once a week instead of fluctuating. It is probably achievable for him. Heck, float twice a week see what he says.

It’s good that you still enjoy dates with him. It sounds like you have a bit of anxiety about the lack of communication outside of dates. It doesn’t sound like he’s preparing to leave you. If he was, you wouldn’t be having a good time on dates.

I think that you are perfectly valid in communicating your feelings about the communication issues.

I don’t think it was fair of him to call you over sensitive because you communicated that. I don’t think you were being over sensitive. You have similar communication standards to me. I enjoy communicating with my partner. I wouldn’t enjoy not being in communication.

I would probably want dates twice a week with no communication. But would be okay with dates once a week with communication.

His communication isn’t likely to change while he feels bad. But you can discuss the dates if changing the frequency would make you feel more comfortable. This might also be a bit of fun for him and make him feel better too.

Sometimes people are different and it is important to take into account their quirks while trying to find a compromise. That being said, if he doesn’t want to compromise, that just leaves you feeling unhappy in the relationship. If you are unhappy then it might be best not to continue the relationship.

What do you think?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏