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Chau
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Hi Helcat,

Yes the book is really helpful. I think this has given me a good direction on how to keep track of my patteerns.

I think my vulnerable child mode, the fear of abandonment is quiet strong. whenever I feel the possibility of being abandoned and the insecurity, I became angry and as Anita suggested before, I made the closed one my enemy. When I practiced to love and care for the my  little child, I did find peace, may be that’s the thing what you talked about not enough self-love?

I texted her about the logistics for next week, she responded quickly but I feel she is not reacting the same as before. A bit cold, and a sense that she isn’t really wanting to share too much.  We used to share everything and now this has changed. May be she wants to break up? or may be it’s been a while that she needs warm up, I can’t tell but I can’t but wonder as well.

She suggested we can meet at home to talk. I was expecting that she would suggest a restaurant or something, so that it’s less emotional and we could just leave.  If now she really breaks up with me, should she or I leave the house? It’s essentially my house, and now she breaks up with me, how should we spend the night? Or may be these haven’t even come to her mind yet. But I have already thought so far.

Helcat, do you mean in the upcoming meeting I have with her, we can set a 30 minutes time and each share for 5 mins? May be that will help how we talk.

I am getting nervous now the date is finally coming. But at least I kept  my promise and I have done everything I could for this.