Hi Famo

I think you’re being a little hard on yourself and blaming yourself for the situation. You are not the cause of his depression. Being anxious is one thing, but it doesn’t sound like you are asking for much. It does make sense to work on your anxiety for your own benefit. Thinking negatively takes a toll.

If he doesn’t want to compromise it means that you have to decide if this relationship is right for you.

It is not about being considerate of his depression. He is not being considerate of your anxiety. It is about two people doing what is right for themselves because ultimately, it is you who needs to manage your needs and him that needs to manage his needs.

I don’t consider not enjoying someone’s jokes a problem. People are different. I don’t always laugh at my husband’s jokes. Only the ones that I find funny. I am not as easy going as he is. But it is not a rejection of him. We are just two different people. He is confident and doesn’t mind if I don’t laugh at all of his jokes. He laughs at his own jokes. His jokes are for him. Like sometimes when I tell a joke that I find funny and he boos it while I laugh at my own joke. This is totally normal behaviour. Humour is like beauty, in the eye of the beholder.

I’m going to reiterate that not everyone limits contact with people when they are depressed. He is making some decisions to behave in ways that negatively impact the relationship and refusing to compromise.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏