Hi Clara

Yes, when we have difficult childhoods we are not taught self-love, we are taught self-hatred. If a parent tells a child that they are bad. Well it must be true says the child my parent said so!

I’m glad that practicing self-love and caring for your inner child has been helpful. Keep learning more and more about self-love. It will heal you.

Yes, practicing managing difficult conversations during the meeting could be helpful. 30 minutes, 5 minutes talking each in turn with the other partner listening.

If she breaks up with you she will have to move out of your house. She could go and stay in a hotel if that happens. Or with a friend or family member.

Remember that you have not had many positive interactions recently. Before you moved out things were very difficult between you. Positive interactions are needed. Many positive interactions. At least 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction is recommended for a healthy relationship.

If things go well in the meeting, she may consider trying. But seeing a therapist so you have an outlet to discuss difficulties that arise, so you are not tempted to immediately discuss them with your partner might be a good idea. The key to healing the relationship will be focusing on nurturing positive interactions and limiting negative ones. So you can both be happy. Discussing problems should happen over time piece by piece in a way that limits how much stress you are both under.

It is tempting to worry about breaking up, but the truth is that you will be fine no matter what happens. Whether you stay with your partner or face the unknown of being single and in time dating again. It will turn out for the best regardless of what happens. If things are not meant to be it would not happen. So wait and see what is going to happen next, what does fate hold in the cards for you?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏