Hi YoungMufasa

Sometimes these things can be cultural. I’m not sure about what your culture is like.

In my culture, some people still look for a steady girlfriend and eventually marriage, but a lot of people look for hookups or short term flings especially when they are young. They’ve been doing that for the past decade at least in my culture. There is a lot of unique other stuff with dating in my culture. Friends with benefits. Polyamory. I think as people get older they start to want to settle down with a partner.

Looking for true love is a nice idea but it’s unlikely to happen immediately. It sounds like you’re just being honest as opposed to romanticising the idea of dating. I think it’s good that you’re open to the right person coming along and surprising you and being willing to give that a try if it happens. Sure people want true love, it is hard to find though. My understanding of true love in relationships is mutually treating each other with respect.

Part of dating is also about understanding what you’re looking for in a partner. It’s a whole process. You will learn more about which types of people you are compatible with.

That is honestly fair if you are at the oral stage. I’m sure that will come in handy. 😂

Later on, it is very easy to get someone pregnant and if you aren’t in a steady relationship you can’t rely on the woman taking birth control. Even in a steady relationship, I’ve heard of women stopping their birth control secretly and trying to get pregnant. So I would make sure that someone is 100% on the same page as you when it comes to not being ready to have kids yet. This is why condoms provide a level of security. Pulling out isn’t very effective as a strategy. If people use that as a strategy for 1 year, 22 out of 100 people end up pregnant in that year.

That is honestly fair! You would be surprised, it is not always obvious. Some people do only have sex and date short term people outside of their ethnicity. I don’t think short term dating is a bad thing as long as you would be willing to consider someone from that ethnicity as a long term partner one day. You are still young and not yet ready to settle down so it is understandable.

Good luck on the dating apps! Oh consent is a big thing these days. So enthusiastic consent is someone being super eager to ya know. 😉

The thing to watch out for is drinking because people can act out of character when they drink. So if someone is drunk even if they’re enthusiastic be a gentleman and wait until they are sober. This avoids people having regrets.

You have a good head on your shoulders and a kind heart. I hope you enjoy dating!

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏