Hi Butterfly

How does he react if you simply say that you are busy and will catch up with him later? For particularly busy periods. My husband wears his headphones as a sign that he is too busy to talk. But he takes them off at less busy periods. Sometimes context clues like that mean that people don’t interrupt. It might take some explaining and figuring out for how to manage the interrupting. I had a coworker that talked when she was less busy and simply said mmmm when she was busy when people spoke to her and focused on her work refusing to talk. This is a context clue that I found helpful. It sounds like it’s all going to require a lot of talking about various options. You could schedule coffee breaks or lunch together. There are a lot of different things to try but it is about finding what works best for you both. Couples counselling sounds like a good idea. I hope that it will help you both to figure things out.

It’s a shame that your needs aren’t being met and you feel angry a lot.

If his adhd is causing severe problems he might want to consider treatment.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏