Wow, that is a lot of tragedy for one person to go thru. I am sorry for such sorrow. What can one do to forget and not have to bring up memories of bad stuff? If you find out then let me know. I have a memory of a day with my high school girlfriend. It went terrible and she broke up with me. I go back to that day in my mind and go thru what I should have done. What I could have done. Anything to make me not feel this way. And this memory pops up everyday.  Oh, I found her thru the internet and called her up. We talked but I am still haunted by my memory of that day. She since has passed away from lung Cancer.

I know this sounds easy, forgive. Forgive them and forgive yourself. This will lighten the load on your heart. I have spent much time sitting in meditation. The time spent just sitting and watching my breath has helped me. Helped me to understand myself. It has let me know that I can choose to identify with my thoughts or not to be swept away by my thoughts. It allows me to let go of the memory of that day. I do not have to relive it over and over again. Regret? Sure, why not. Something I did or did not do?? Doesn’t matter anymore. Love? Just a feeling?

I try to practice being here and now. Watch people’s actions and their intentions. It isn’t what they say that matters. It is what they do (their actions) and their intentions when they do it. If you found out your SO or whatever is bad mouthing you, then did you ask why they do that? Ask why they feel the need to hurt you? Make them understand that they are hurting a person. Not just an insignificant person. But, someone they are suppose to care for?

Yeah, listen to Anita. She has been here helping people for almost forever. She is good. “god, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”