Hi Elais

You sound very aware of your difficulties. As Anita said different styles of therapy are useful for different things.

You have tendencies of avoidance. I have them too. I learned in therapy that avoidance reinforces our fears. So the more we avoid, the worse we feel when we encounter situations that we are afraid of. But the more we fight against those feelings and push ourselves to not avoid. Whilst it is scary and hard, in time we can adjust and trust in our capabilities and be less afraid.

It sounds to me like working on your self-esteem and boundaries would be helpful. When you feel comfortable saying no to people. Then you won’t need to avoid. When you are confident in yourself you won’t need to shy away.

All therapy really does is teach you the tools to be your own therapist. Most of the battle is applying what is learned in therapy. A therapist cannot make the changes for us.

Perhaps the people who are heavily weighing on you shouldn’t be doing so as much. It is okay to take some space for yourself to take care of yourself when you need to. Putting so much into others can leave your life on hold.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏