Hi Meg

I’m sorry to hear about all of the difficulties throughout your life.

Whilst it is respectful not to discuss private life with others in a relationship, a lot of people do it. People vent and gossip, it is a part of life.

However, your partner has done some things that are worse to me. He said that he doesn’t love you and mocks you. People can discuss things in a more respectful way. He isn’t treating you will respect. He is treating you disrespectfully and at this point is doing it knowing that you will see the messages. He doesn’t care if he hurts you. He lied to you about talking to his ex and is controlling demanding that you behave in certain ways and refuses to adhere to his own standards. He is refusing to engage with counselling by refusing the materials and not saying much. He allows his family to disrespect you and expects for you to accept it alone.

Why do you want to forgive and forget all of these things? Your pain is just, ignoring it would be a mistake.

That you are tied together by a child and financially for a year doesn’t mean that you need to stay a couple in a relationship. There are other options. You could treat him only as a co-parent. Let the relationship between you pass and focus on healing your pain. You deserve so much more. What do you think?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏