Hi Lilly-Mae

I’m sorry that you’re in this painful situation and feel like you’re not good enough. Well done on finally standing up for yourself!

I’ve been in your situation more than once. I’m sorry but my thoughts might be painful to you. I don’t want to hurt you. It isn’t my intention.

In my opinion, this man was never your friend. It He was your abuser. It sounds like he wanted to keep his future options open with using you for sex.

He can find a regular relationship easily. But it is harder to find someone who is willing to tolerate abuse. Most people have boundaries. He was looking for someone to abuse and you were that person. He could never love you because loving someone means treating them with respect. He never respected you.

However, you are good enough. You deserve a loving committed relationship, just not with him. I hope that in the future your own boundaries and tell anyone who treats you badly to take a hike. A tip I learned dating is that if someone says they don’t want to date you, they will never change their mind.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏