Dear Krish:

“I want to forget those years of my marriage and I know that these don’t define me“- seems to me that the honesty, kindness, and reasonable thinking that you displayed in this thread, as well as your courage and grace.. these are some of the things that define you.

“If she really meant well for me (I do give benefit of doubt), the only thing I can do within my capacity is pray for her and her family“- excellent attitude and approach. Reading this reminded me to do the same in regard to some people in my life.

“I trust my conscience“- a major factor in one’s mental health.

“People try to manipulate me by saying that they have issues with my ex’s family because they took sides with me and supported me…  It is a way of making me responsible for issues in their relationship. I don’t resort to manipulation“- so, your ex’s family was not satisfied with him getting away with no legal consequences for his violence against you, and with him getting out of the marriage with zero financial cost to him.. they also don’t want anyone saying something that’s supportive of the victim.. ?

“I said to them of lately that in a domestic violence scenario there is no room for taking sides as the perpetrator will abuse for petty reasons and is unreasonable“- yes.

“Thank you for being very supportive and I am happy to be part of this forum.“- you are welcome, and thank you for being here!

anita