Hi Anita

Thank you

This gave me another perspective. Whatever this is describing, fits what I am experiencing indeed.

It did create a lot of confusion, and unnecessary pain, for me on the receiving end of the break up. I am aware of my overreacting and insecurity/ attachment style. will continue to practice ways to make myself more stable and regulated.

I often treasures honesty and directness, I do not like to guess or beat around the bush. I often think this causes more harm. It is often because the person delivering the message does not have enough mental strength/ courage to deliver the message, at the cost of the peace of the recipient. I guess this is also how she draws further, as I often challenge her to talk/ face directly with the situations.

Thanks, I feel this is clearer again.

Clara