Dear Helcat:

You are welcome. I am sorry to read that your cat is still missing and that she may not come back home.

“She was my first pet as an adult. My first baby… I love her so much“- I think that your heart will always wear the pawprints left by your cat. From a poem titled Pawprints left by you: “You were far more than a pet. You were a family member, a friend, a loving soul I’ll never forget. It will take time to heal… My heart will always wear the pawprints left by you”.

It makes sense to not put your dog through another surgery, last was only 23 days ago (Sept 5), and it is compassionate to approach things from an end of life perspective if his health worsens.

“It would hit me really hard because he is my emotional support dog. I’m not ready to lose him either, but I will have to be strong“- I hope that he stays with you for a long time, wagging tail, experiencing a satisfactory quality of life. And I hope that you are strong as you reading this, and that you remain strong every day, every night.

“My pets are my family. They mean so much to me“- Pawprints on Helcat’s Heart.

I hope that you passed the exam even though you couldn’t finish it, and if not, that you will pass the next.

“Couples counselling was okay“- I wonder if the first or second session because on Sept 16, you were still waiting for couple therapy.

“One thing that I have difficulty with is that I don’t have an outlet for my feelings. I just keep it all inside and suffer. It still hurts a lot everyday. My husband keeps saying that he is going to leave me. Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏“- you are welcome to share more about your feelings here, in your thread. I will read and reply.

– May the ❤️that you extend to others in these forums return to you.

I was disappointed to read that he keeps saying that he is going to leave you. Last you wrote (Sept 18): “Things are a bit better for me today. My husband has been trying to be more affectionate…“, so I was hopeful.

On Aug 22, you wrote: “The longest interactions we have now are disagreements“- I wonder if he cannot endure any more disagreements (..?) and if it’s possible to not disagree at all for a long while.

About 7 hours after you submitted your most recent post in this thread, you wrote in a reply to another member: “To a baby, the mother and baby are one and the same. Like a limb, she is the hand that feeds, that cleans, that comforts and protects“- you are baby-Helcat and mother-Helcat. May mother-Helcat’s hand be the one that comforts and protects baby Helcat.

I am closing this post with the image of baby Helcat on my mind and with an affectionate smile that this image brings.

anita