Hi Anita

Love right back to you! ❤️ I love your ideas too. I think that we should work on that during couples counselling.

Yes, it is very special that he loves me. Aside from my therapists, he was the first person to show me unconditional love. His love taught me to love myself. If I didn’t have that experience with him, I would not be able to cope with disagreements.

Can you tell me more about the emotional chart idea? What do you mean by that? Flashcards with emotions?

Starting with love is a good idea because it is the easiest place to do that. I would like to hold hands during disagreements too. If possible. Starting with love, holding hands and ending with love sounds really nice.

I showed him this thread during a disagreement before I read your most recent message and I think it really helped him see me. It has been a long time since I felt like that. We did end with love too!

Yes, he is sensitive to criticism I think. More so than me. It has taken me a long time to understand how sensitive he is to it. I think that it is hard for him that I am sensitive and feel hurt sometimes by things that he does. He feels hurt that I feel hurt when he didn’t mean to hurt me. If that makes sense?

It is also hard for him that I focused on the baby for so long. It takes a while for me to process things and I have a one track mind. There is a backlog of stuff to process about our relationship. So he feels like it is a lot understandably.

Thank you so much for everything. You are helping more than you know and I am so grateful. ❤️

Love and best wishes, always! ❤️🙏