The reason I took a different turn on my own journey couple of years ago was that I had lost a person whom I really, really wanted in my life. Yet, my life was a complete mess and so was I. He was perfect for me, someone I had waited for my entire life, and then he was there, and it all fell apart. It was the push I needed to really seek help for my own problems. So, for me, was the timing bad or exactly what it was supposed to be? 🙂 It didn’t end up being the great romance in the conventional sense, but it changed everything for me. He is still around, supporting me and encouraging me on my way, and there is still hope for romance in the future. If it ever happens, it would be completely different to what it would’ve been, had we embarked on a mutual journey while I still had issues that needed to be dealt with.

While you’re in pain, it’s hard to see the future and think that things might be different. You don’t know what is going to happen. What if you learned something precious from this experience and next year, the real love of your life will enter the scene? What if you helped her to see something she really needed to see? Obviously, all of this isn’t a great help when you are in the middle of a painful situation. Besides, if you focus on what might happen next, you’d miss out on what is happening right now, which is what leads to the next moment.

All you can really do is to take care of yourself and be kind and compassionate to yourself and observe. Try to make choices that are healthy for you, and try not to hurt others in the process. Life unfolds before you all the time, and a year from now, you’ll look back and see what you can’t see right now.