Hi Kelly

Thanks.

I will share my perspective and hope it will resonate with you at some level. I am not religious either but my life experiences have helped me realise that we are amazingly powerful and when we are able to accept ourselves for who we are, forgiveness and love come easy.

From your words and the energy that I sense, I feel that you are not completely in love with yourself so perhaps letting your partner go will be the best option until you are able to act from your higher self.

Forgiveness is not an illusion but an essential component of a healthy existence on this planet. When we experience negative emotions, we create hormones in our body that lead us to feel sad and down ( science has proven that we are a super chemical factory). When we are happy, we produce happy hormones, which help us to heal. The hormones produce our physical reality for us. With prolonged exposure to bad hormones, some may experience pain and some may experience psychological problems but most of us will feel some effect. This is exactly the reason why stress is causing havoc in so many peoples lives.

When we are able to forgive, we tell our body and inner being that we accept ourselves as we are. We appreciate who we are. Both of these actions help us to release more happy hormones and we feel at peace. When we expect others to admit to their faults or be nice to us etc, we give our power away to other people. By doing this, we tell ourselves that we are not good enough and our body starts to produce bad hormones, which will eventually create havoc in the physical body.

So instead of looking at forgiveness as part of some divine or religious act and find reasons to explain this phenomenon, use forgiveness as a tool to heal your inner being. When you accept yourself for who you are, love who Kelly is, then you will be able to forgive others and accept others for who they are. We are all imperfect beings on this planet who are trying to do our best in our own capacities. No one is more better than anyone else. We are all unique so there is no competition or comparisons.

If you want to truly understand the meaning of forgiveness then start by forgiving yourself first as you are the only one who will suffer as a consequence of not forgiving or expecting apologies from others. We cant love others until we love ourselves. We cant accept others until we accept ourselves and similarly, we cant forgive others until we forgive ourselves.

Does this make sense ?

Jasmine