Hi Buddah123,

I think we guys get too smart for ourselves and therefore sometimes do stupid things. My painful example, and I hope this shows the stupid, was about 6 weeks ago. She and I were both falling in love. I asked her out and she said she was kinda busy, with big smiles. I thought wow she is awesome and this is looking good. Not a no. Great vibes. She said I was really nice. Ok. Follow up with her…
Except then I got on this “helpful” place called the internet you May gave heard of it. I read about what guys thought of girls saying they were “busy” and you are “nice.” Yes helpful if I filtered this against my reality which was she was really into me. >Kablooey< I panicked having had baggage myself thinking she really was just letting me off easy. I ignored her for a couple days. She got hurt. I followed up but having had some baggage before she said she really cared for me but Stop and go away.
I’ve spent the last 6 weeks in total chaos. Only the past few days am I thinking that I can approach her and talk, I hope.
Lesson learned for me: don’t act on fears and distorted thinking. Chill out. It’s normal to have doubts. Don’t follow what people say on the internet like the road, but maybe as a possible map or even maybe sketchy directions. Follow your heart.

I hope this one guy’s perspective helps in some way.