Im really sorry Lunarforest,
But at least you got an answer though a bad one and i believe you felt bad.
What im wondering is that how come after all i cant talk bad about him,i wish all the best for him,i go to church and pray for him. For easter so i went to church and light a candle for him.
I guess you feel the same.you dont seem a person who applies the revenge…
About her birthday after you got this kind of answer do not wish her…as you said: it wont change anything. I think i will do the same and i hopeeee i wont change my mind.