Hey Tom @tom2. Thanks for your insight. I agree that when we fixate on something too much, we forget about other important things in life. In my own experience, every time, I have fixated on something for hours or days, I have not achieved the thing that I was fixating on. The moment I let go, it all becomes easy and light again. For example, same thing often happens when we are desperately waiting for that impt call from someone and can’t take our eyes off the phone but that call doesn’t come. The moment we start doing something else or get busy with other things, the phone rings 😉 . Can you relate to something similar ?

Letting go is not easy I agree. Every time, we are hurt or fall down in life, we need to be kind to ourself and do the necessary grieving that is required. But at the end of the day, letting go of unhelpful emotions or issues is in our hands. It is a conscious choice that everyone of us can make for our own greater good. We can choose to grieve for one day, for 2 weeks or for 10 years. No one is really affected by how long we continue our quest of not letting go except for ourselves.

When our hearts are filled with love, forgiveness and acceptance for self, letting go becomes a preferred choice over sadness, guilt, resentment, anger, disbelief, fear etc. We can only love, forgive or accept others when we can truly do the same to our own self – this is a very difficult concept for some to understand but if you sit on it for a few days, it will make sense. When you are alone, try and occupy your mind with positive thoughts or ideas. There are various ways of doing that – exercise, watch interesting documentaries, listen to positive or inspirational talks (thanks to you tube, we have so much of these things nowadays), sing, dance, listen to music, ring up old mates, clean the house, make a nice dish for yourself, read a book, walk in the nature, look after someone’s dog or kids etc. Taking your thoughts in a positive rather than negative direction will only do you do good in both the short or long run.

Prayer is quite similar to meditation. Anything, which is done with a pure intent or love is going to bring more light to our hearts.

Best wishes and may you, Cameron, Gavin, Network7, Angela D find what you are all seeking.

Jasmine