Wow, I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend! I am so glad I found this thread! 🙂

@sanna said:
That is – your boyfriend isn’t the cause of those feelings, but the messenger/mirror who makes it possible for you to face the things you need to process on to be happy.

This struck a chord with me but I don’t fully understand, if that makes any sense! What do you mean by “facing things you need to process on to be happy”. For example, my boyfriend has a crazy work schedule. Usually when I am asleep, I will wake up to find him gone fishing, and for some reason, I get very angry with him A. because he just up and left without a note. B. I get scared that maybe something has happened to him while he’s out at such odd hours. C. Although he’s never given me reason to believe he would cheat on me, my mind goes crazy with all these bad scenarios. So when he does finally come in, I am furious. We have a bad fight and end up sleeping separate when all he wanted to do was fish. I FEEL CRAZY. But I also feel like he should be wanted to be next to me since we hardly ever see each other anyway! I’ve even thought about breaking up just to save each of us the stress. But I love him so much. He even said he wants to marry me! But there is no way I could marry him when I freak out every time he wants time to himself.