P.s. It’s often said that when we choose a relationship, we also choose a certain set of “problems”. In a way it is true, and sometimes the problems in a certain relationship may be less tolerable than they would be in some other relationship.

But because relationships are always about mirroring each other, in every relationship we are set a chance to really look at ourselves and get to know the uncomfortable feelings we have. Where do they rise from – especially in the situation, where the other person doesn’t mean to harm us in purpose? What do they tell us about our selves? When are we acting in a controlling/abusive way without noticing it? Trying to control the other person/demanding things when the only thing we want to control is our own fear/pain – and the needs something the other person isn’t responsible over (“feeling special”).

We all carry certain set of “problems” inside of ourselves too, and taking a proper look to the uncomfortable feelings we have is something all must do at some point. So to say, in every relationship the situation where problems arise may differ – but there is never gonna be a relationship that saves us from facing ourselves, both in good and bad. A conflict is always a possibility to learn more about ourselves – because nothing really harms us, if it doesn’t touch us somewhere deep inside.