Hi Christina,

On your second point, I totally get what your saying. I get the same feeling from a lot of people. I think it stems from various different things. Some people are naturally predatory, they smell perceived weakness or insecurity in others and enjoy to play games with them. It’s an ugly part of human nature. From what i can tell, a lot of people who engage in this behavior have dealt with the same, and they feel the need to get theirs. Secure, happy people rarely resort to such things because their world view is positive and they tend to see only the good in others, and love spreading kindness and happiness because that’s what they are feeling all the time.

So i’m in agreement that the best thing to do is to remove those people that feel the need to mess with you. Although first you should be accountable for you own actions and really see whether maybe your behavior caused them to lose respect for you. If so atone and try to change your behavior and give them the opportunity to do the same, but if even after that they don’t change leave them. Yes it might get lonely that’s why you have to actively have to go out and find the support group that works for you. It’s work, but its worth it.