Hi Roohi,

We all have a past. We have all done things we wish we hadn’t done, and not everyone wants to hold onto those things. What I have done in the past has affected who I am today, but it does not define me. If I had to show a resume of my past relationships to every possible suitor today, I’d stay single for the rest of my life. However, I have learned from my past and I know what bad things can be like, so I can consciously choose the good things: love, kindness, compassion. Your husband has chosen to be with you and not stay in the past. That does not sound like a bad thing to me at all.

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